Tammy Leigh Robinson

Inspirational Speaker and Author

Remember when you were young and you had dreams of what you would be when you grew up? We all had dreams when we were children. Then “life happens” and our dreams get put on a shelf and layered in dust. Sometimes, circumstances look as if there is no possible way we can reach our goals.

History records the story of a young woman that had a vision for her future. Suddenly, all her dreams seemed like mountains of impossibility. For twelve years she suffered, not knowing why. Yet, she clung to the promise the she was blessed and her story would be told for many generations.

Walk with me as I uncover the untold possibilities of this woman’s life, as she pursued her dreams, coming face to face with the demons of Doubt, Fear and Death.


Book Launch Date: January 2017
I am a mother of three and an angel in heaven. I have had a passion for writing since I was in Grade one.

After starting several drafts of different manuscripts, in different genres, I was touched by God after listening to the preaching of a man from Europe in 1997. His message was direct: Don’t give up on your dream!

That night I felt God tell me that the next day He would reveal to me what my manuscript would be about. Sure enough, the next day, the idea was revealed and the work began on my manuscript began.

It’s been a long process and the project was often put on the back burner as life happened. Despite the demands of home schooling my three awesome children, going through a difficult divorce, and then turning my back on God while living in an abusive common-law relationship, I gave up on my passion to be a writer.

In 2009, after being hospitalized for 9 days from a suicide attempt, I decided it was time to get serious about my life and my dreams to publish her manuscript.

Today I enjoy speaking to women’s groups, networking groups and the weekly Life Group I host in my home. As an entrepreneur, I am a courageous business woman and I’m always looking for the WIN/WIN opportunity.

I’m fortunate to reside in the beautiful Niagara Region with my husband and soul mate, Keith Robinson. I’m currently writing my second manuscript; Nameless ~A Story of Courage. I also have plans for my third book in this trilogy, Nameless ~A Story of Forgiveness.
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Fight or Flight

2017-05-27 21:59:42


Welcome back!

I apologize that I’ve been off-line for so long. First our laptop wouldn’t connect to the internet. After we got that fixed the mouse went on it. One thing after another seemed to go wrong. I'm so relieved to say we are back online! First world problems!

Today we’re chatting about the Fight or Flight Response.

Imagine you’ve landed in a foreign country after a long flight. It’s hot and humid. You and your friends are all crammed into a van for a long trip through the mountains. It’s dark now. You’ve been travelling for hours. You’re getting sleepy. Exhaustion kicks in. You’re starting to doze off.

Suddenly you hear BANG! BANG BANG! BANG!

What would your reaction be? Heart pounding? Quick breathing? Muscles tense? If you have a good imagination you may even be feeling these things from reading this. These physical reactions can happen when we’re in a fight or flight situation.

The situation you just read about actually happened to me in March of 1993 in Guatemala. Let me tell you, my fight or flight response was on full blast!

There are several types of responses our body may have. These responses help us in that dangerous situation. The difficulty comes when we are not in a dangerous situation and the fight or flight response kicks in. It is also difficult when the fight or flight responses don’t stop after we’ve dealt with the danger.

 

Let’s take a closer look at some of the responses. We’ll chat about how they are helpful to us when we’re in danger, as well as how they can become unhelpful by continuing when they aren’t needed and when they kick in at the wrong time:

Racing Thoughts: These thoughts help us to do a quick threat assessment of the situation. It helps us make decisions. It is difficult to focus on anything else other than the feeling of danger and what we need to do immediately. It is helpful to have that extra heightened focus to deal with the situation at hand.

When racing thoughts come at inappropriate times or won’t stop we may find ourselves frustrated and unable to function. Have you ever lain awake at night tossing and turning because your thoughts won’t turn off? I, personally have lain awake for endless hours. Many times I thought I’d go crazy if I didn’t get some sleep.

Have you ever tried to read and suddenly realized you have no understanding or recollection of what you just read? Where were your thoughts? Perhaps they were racing unnecessarily?

 Changes to Vision: Sometimes  we have tunnel vision… where we don’t take in our peripheral vision. This allows us to hyper focus on one area. Another symptom is our vision can become sharper and more clear. Our eyes comprehend more than normal. You can imagine how this would help us when we’re fighting danger or running from it.

Changes to vision like this are not helpful when we’re not in danger. It can cause us to miss out on details around us that we may need to pick up on. While it may seem a bonus to see more precisely, it’s possible to cause tension and headaches when it occurs over an extended period.

Heart Beats Faster: When in danger, our body assumes we’ll need our arms and legs to fight danger or run away. In response, the heart beats faster, causing the blood to circulate to the arms and leg muscles, providing the muscles with extra nutrients and oxygen.

This causes the blood to divert away from inner organs. In turn this can cause the entire digestive system to slow down. We may feel dry mouth, stomach upset and diarrhea.

In times of danger we need this, but when our Fight or Flight Response is out of sync it can become very uncomfortable to experience continued dry mouth, nausea and diarrhea.

Cold Hands: When the blood vessels in the skin of our hands contracts it forces the blood to move towards the major muscle groups.

Unfortunately, continuous cold hands is very unpleasant to deal with.

Sweaty Palms: We sweat to keep our body cool. If we didn’t sweat when we are in danger we would over heat.

How embarrassing is it to shake hands when meeting someone and you realize your palms are sweaty? Of course that happens from time to time, but when it’s on going it makes it extremely difficult to deal with.

Muscles Tense: When our body prepares to fight or run away our muscles tighten up. You can imagine the discomfort of muscles that are continuously taut. I have Fibromyalgia and it often feels like my muscles are tense. It is very painful.

Quick & Shallow Breathing: In order to make our body able to fight or flee we need more oxygen. Therefore our breathing comes in short, shallow breaths.

For short-term this is helpful. Long term, however, this can cause many problems, such as dizziness and feeling light-headed.

 Adrenal Glands: To prepare our body to fight danger or flee from it, our adrenal glands release adrenaline. This signals other organs to prepare to run or fight.

As with the previous symptoms, too much adrenaline can cause problems. The muscles in the bladder may relax so the muscles in other areas can tighten, causing bladder urgency.

It may also cause weight loss or gain; easy bruising; acne; muscle weakness; depression, anxiety; fatigue and sleep disturbances.

The above drawing is a great visual aide to understand Chronic Stress. The Fight or Flight Response is normal and healthy in dangerous circumstances. When our bodies don’t return to homeostasis afterward it creates Chronic Stress. Our bodies need relief from stress or they will begin to breakdown.

I hope today’s blog has helped you understand the Fight or Flight Response. For tips on managing stress see my blog, Stress Management Tips on April 15_17.

I look forward to reading your comments on today’s blog, so please post them below. Next week I’ll share how breathing can help deal with stress. Join me!

If you’ve been reading my recent blogs, you’ll know I’m using a new system to send my weekly emails. If you haven’t gone to my landing page to download your FREE e-book, MY UNKNOWN CHRISTMAS, please click the LINK below to do so. There you can  enter your name and email address into my new automated system. I’m giving you this FREE E-Book to say thank you so much!

MY UNKNOWN CHRISTMAS is a short story I wrote several years ago. One Christmas, I was missing my daughter Wendy, who passed away. I thought about what it would be like from her perspective if she came to visit us in spirit. This short story is the result. Let me know what you think. I love feedback!

http://tlrpublishing.gr8.com/ 

As you know, I’ve released my book, NAMELESS ~A Story of Faith. Sales are going very well. I have it in a few bookstores now, as well! The feedback has been incredible! Many people have said they couldn’t put it down. A few people even cried while reading it! I’m working on NAMELESS ~A Story of Couragethe 2nd book in the NAMELESS Trilogy . It is an amazing story! I will release it in 2018.

If you haven’t purchased your autographed copy of NAMELESS ~A Story of Faith please click on the LINK below to pay with Pay Pal. If you prefer to pay by EMT, please send $26 ($6 is for shipping) to Tammy@TLRPublishing.com and I’ll get your book sent to you immediately.

This book will make a FABULOUS gift! Many people have purchased an extra copy to give as gifts and the receivers have loved the book. My Mother-in-law bought 2 extra copies to give away and a 3rd to donate to her local library!

This book is a historical fiction with an inspirational message. It’s about a woman who was deathly sick and the many obstacles she had to overcome to reach her goal –healing. Angels of Hope and Strength help her on her journey, while demons of Fear and Weakness attack her.

If you’ve read the book please email me your thoughts. I’m collecting feedback to show to larger stores like Chapters, as proof that people want to buy my book. Then they will carry it on their shelves.

Don’t wait! Order yours today!

https://TLRPublishing.com

I want to share some information with you about my other businesses. This is the end of my blog, so if you don't want to read about our businesses you can stop reading now. Of course, I'd love it if you'd continue to read and order products from us, but first of importance is my relationship with you. I won't push anything on anyone. If you know of anyone that would benefit from our products, feel free to share with them. Even if now is not the time for you to buy from us, it is helpful know what we offer so that when the time is right, you will know who to contact.

Hollywood Eye Magic is an amazing serum that does not contain any chemicals. It diminishes the bags and fine lines under your eyes within minutes! You can look you 10 years younger in 5 minutes! For more information please email me at: HollywoodNorthTK@gmail.com

This product is available in two sizes: 30 applications for $40 and 300 applications for $120. Or you can have the COMBO for $150. Plus tax and shipping. We have product in stock, so call now!

Send Out Cards is an amazing way to encourage your loved ones. I always feel better when I do something to encourage someone else. Design your cards online. Personalize them by uploading your photos and your handwriting. Add gifts from books and jewelry to delicious brownies. For more information please email me at: tammyrobinson10@gmail.com

Please go to my website to send a card of your choice and your own design for FREE! When you click the link, just click the Send a Card button. If you need help there is a tutorial video, or call me. I’m happy to help!  https://www.sendoutcards.com/tammyrobinson/

We’ve been selling Organo Gold for several years. Our healthy, gourmet coffee and tea are the BEST I’ve tasted! The coffee is smooth and the chocolate is decadent. All Organo Gold products contain China’s number 1 herb –Ganoderma. I won’t make health claims, but I will say I have many amazing health benefits from consuming the beverages and the herb in capsule form every day. We also have weight management shakes in vanilla and chocolate flavours.  I’ve been enjoying these every morning for breakfast. If you want more information please email me at: tammyrobinson10@gmail.com

To order your Organo Gold products and have them shipped directly to you click on: Https://Www.TammyRobinson.MyOrganoGold.com

 The last one is our luxury bedding for affordable prices: Tammy’s Clara Clark Bedding Canada. Our cotton sheets have 1800 thread count which gives them amazing softness. They are valued for hundreds of dollars, but we offer the complete set (with deep pockets) for only $55.00! And that’s for every size bed! Orders go in on the 17th of every month and arrive the last week of the month. Click the link and go to Photos then Winter 2017 Catalog to see pics of our products. We also have a party option if you’d like to earn Hostess Rewards! Email me with any questions at: TammysClaraClarkBeddingCanada@gmail.com

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Would you like to receive 15% off your Clara Clark Bedding order? Would you like to receive 10% off the price of my book, NAMELESS ~ A Story of Faith? Now you can, through the Worldwide Shoppers Club. The club is an exclusive group of Merchants and Members focused on the WIN/WIN of promoting small businesses and saving money for customers. ALL Merchants offer rebates on ALL purchases! These are goods and services you’re buying anyway, so why not get some of your money back AND support a small business at the same time? It's a well-known fact that supporting a small business improves the economy.

For more info email me at: tammyrobinson10@gmail.com or click on this link to watch a TV interview about it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bj8gn8hQ5jc

You can see my site at: Www.TammysClaraClarkBeddingCanada.WorldwideShoppersClub.com where you’ll receive 15% REBATE with your order! Click on the SHOP button at the top of the page to view the many merchants in the club.

We’re bringing on more Merchants and Members in the Niagara region and across Canada as we speak. If you own a small business and want to see your sales soar, this is a FREE and risk free opportunity. In our first 6 days in the club we did a month’s worth of sales!

If you want to get a rebate for buying products and services you already buy, contact me today and start saving money! This is a WIN/WIN! It is NOT a business opportunity. It is a club, like a Costco membership. Keith and I were able to cancel our $80/ month cable bill by purchasing a TV Box and now we only pay $12/ month. We’ve also cut down the cost of our internet service and now have faster and UNLIMITED internet!

On Thursday, June 8th, we’re having a special guest come to St Catharines to give a presentation on the Worldwide Shoppers Club, so mark that on your calendar. You won’t want to miss it!

 For details and to register for this event click on this link and then the calendar. See you then!

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 I look forward to hearing what you think about today’s blog: Fight or Flight.

Cheers!

~Tammy Robinson~


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Stress Managements Tips

2017-05-07 14:59:50


STRESS MANAGEMENT TIPS

Welcome! Thanks for joining us!

I apologize for the brief delay in receiving my blogs. We were experiencing several technical difficulties. We have most of them ironed out. I wrote this blog on vacation but was unable to upload it. We’re back on track now...

As I write this, I’m in the passenger seat and Keith just took over driving. We just crossed the border into Quebec, from New Brunswick, after a week visiting family. We’re on our way home, back to the grindstone!

At the end of my blog today, I will include some information about our other businesses for your information. If you haven’t checked them out before, I urge you to do so. We don’t push our products on people. We prefer to offer the information to you, so when the time is right, you know who to contact.

As I mentioned in last week’s blog, we’re going to discuss Stress and the many factors surrounding it for the next several weeks. Last week we looked at possible triggers to stress as well as symptoms of stress.

This week we’re going to discuss Stress Management Tips.

Below are a few suggestions:

I’m going to discuss 8 different techniques. Hopefully, at least one of them will be beneficial to you. Please comment below on which ones you found work for you.

  1. Identify Your Stressorsand see if there are some things you can do to lessen your stress. Quite often there are things that are within your control, even though it feels as if we’re powerless to change anything.

I read an amazing book by Brian Klemmer, called “Compassionate Samurai.” As the title suggests, the book has many ideas that seem contradictory. However, one of the main things I learned through DBT (Dialectic Behavior Therapy) is that many times two opposites can exist at the same time. Instead of using the word “but”, I try to use the word “and.” It’s difficult and sometimes it doesn’t make sense, but it is powerful when you do it!

For example, I could say, “I enjoy driving long distances but I get tired easily.” The last part of that sentence takes away the power of the first part. If we replace “but” with “and” the sentence is, “I enjoy driving long distances and I get tired easily.” Do you see how that sentence has more power? Both the first part and the second part of the sentence are true at the same time.

 When I first read the Compassionate Samurai I disagreed with his claim that we all have choice. We are never in a circumstance that we haven’t chosen. I thought of people who live in East Germany (then the wall was still up forbidding people to leave without the government’s permission.) Surely, he didn’t mean those people chose to live there. If they tried to leave without permission they would be killed!

That’s when the light bulb came on! They chose to live there because they would rather live there than possibly die by trying to escape. It is possible they could escape and live free but they would only choose to take that route when the desire to live free becomes more important than the desire to live. I realized they do have a choice!

A “Stressor” is the thing that causes your stress. Some things are mostly beyond your control, but not completely. For example, if you work at a job that has deadlines, and deadlines are one of your stressors, you can’t change that. Except by getting a different job. You do have the choice to work somewhere else. It may take effort and perhaps training, but it is possible.

However, if you decide to stay, what things are within your control that would help you manage your stress better? Perhaps you can schedule at least a short lunch break so you can eat, maybe get some fresh air and meditate. Perhaps you can go to bed earlier so you are well rested and have more energy when you’re at work.

  1. Choose To Exercise Regularly.This is my biggest challenge. I’ve recently started some treatment sessions with Maria Esposito. My first homework assignment was walking/ exercising for at least 20 minutes per day… on week number 1! I’m paying a lot of money for these sessions, so I’m going to do my homework.

Since I’ve started exercising I feel so much healthier and energetic! Exercising is a main component to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. It will give you more energy. Many people find that exercise helps them unwind.

  1. Eat And Sleep Well.When you’re at a restaurant and the waitress asks you, “Would you like salad or fries with that?” what do you choose? Recently, I’ve been choosing salad. Even when cooking dinner, I often cook meat and have salad with it instead of starch items.

If you’re having difficulty sleeping, stress will only add to that. Personally, I have a FREE meditation app on my phone that I listen to almost every night when I go to sleep. It helps me unwind and go to sleep. I prefer the guided meditations because if I don’t have the voice guiding me my mind will race, thinking about what I didn’t get done today and what I need to remember to do tomorrow. If I’m meditating during the day, not wanting to sleep, I’ll listen to a music or nature sound meditation. The one I use is called “Insight Timer”.

4.  Make Time For YOU!Have you ever been on a plane? If you have, you know when the steward is going through their talk before the flight, he/ she will say if the masks drop from the ceiling in an emergency to put YOUR mask on FIRST. Then you can help children and elderly around you. Why do they say that? If you don’t look after yourself FIRST you will be no help to others. You actually endanger both yourself and others.

This took me years to put into practice. Especially, with my personality type, being a lover and a giver, I would almost always say “yes” to people even at my personal cost. For the most part I now put myself first, knowing I will be a better help to them in the future if I look after myself now. For more information on this, see my blog on March 4_17 on “Saying No.”

So, take time for family and friends. Have some social time, and recreational time. Not only do you deserve it, you NEED it!

  1. Problem Solving Techniques.Brainstorming sessions are helpful to come up with solutions. I prefer to brainstorm with at least one other person. I find one person’s ideas spark other creative ideas in other people.

Once you have a list of possible solutions, create a pros and cons list for each. When you have that information it will be easier to find the solution to your problem.

  1. Use Calming Techniques.There are many options for calming techniques. I’ll list a couple below. Remember our friend Google? He’ll be able to give you many more options.

I prefer deep belly breathing. That calms me quickly and easily. Take a deep breath in, pushing it all the way down to your belly, then filling your chest. This is the opposite of shallow breathing, which is when we take a short breath into our chest. When you let out your breath, take your time and give a loud sigh. Take about 5 of these deep belly breaths and you should feel calmer. I do this when I’m anxious and stressed as well as when I lie down to go to sleep.

Another option is progressive muscle relaxation. As I mentioned earlier there are FREE apps to guide you through this. The one I use has this as an option as well. With this technique, you start at one part of your body and slowly think about each part one at a time. In some cases you may flex the muscles, then relax them, or you may just focus on that part of the body.  I, personally find it more effective to tense the muscles for a few seconds, then relax them. By going through your whole body it will be easier to relax.

 These techniques take some practice to get used to. When you use them regularly, it will become second nature to you. The important thing is to find what works for you. What works for me may not work for you.

  1. Assertiveness And Communication Skills.You may want to ask your doctor or a professional about courses that are available in your community on learning these to important skills.

Wow! I’m just realizing how far I’ve come in the last 5 years! For most of my life I've been passive. I would bottle things up and inevitably I would explode over something little. Have you heard the phrase, “the last straw that broke the camel’s back”? That was me. And I’ve made scenes in public over the littlest thing.

I’ve finally learned, when I’m assertive I’m healthier. I don’t have underlying issues that are building toward an undeserved explosion. It’s also better for the people I’m communicating with. When I’m passive, the other person thinks everything is fine, when in reality it’s not. When I’m assertive, I’m being completely honest with the other person and they know exactly how I feel.

These skills take some training and practice. I found being assertive very difficult. In fact, it is something I continue to work on. In each situation I have to consciously choose an assertive response. Sometimes I don’t even think of it. I automatically do the passive thing, then later I regret it and end up going back to the person with a different response.

For more information on this, see my blog on Feb 18_17 entitled, “Be Assertive!

  1. Be Aware Of Negative Thinking.This is a big one. Most times people are unaware of how negative their thinking is. Have you ever thought, You’re ugly! Or what about, You’re so stupid! I hope not! Yet, most people have. I have!

Another part of the sessions I’m taking with Maria is to post a list of my “Findings”, which are positive “I am…” statements. First thing in the morning and last thing at night, I look at each phrase. I close my eyes and think the phrase. Then I look at myself in the mirror and say the phrase out loud.

Phrases like I am beautiful! And, I am successful! How do you think you would feel after doing this with about 30 or 40 statements? Compare that to how you would feel after stating the 2 negative statements I mentioned earlier. Which one do you think is more conducive to over coming and managing stress? Obviously, the positive statements.

Start by becoming aware of what you say and think about yourself. When you catch yourself using negative self-talk combat it by stating the positive /opposite out loud 3 times.

 For more information on this topic, see my blog, Overcoming Negative Self Talk on February 11_17.

Below is a pic I found with some suggestions for stress management:

 

Please post your comments about Stress Management Tips below. I love reading them! Each comment is valuable! Next week we’ll look at Fight or Flight.

If you’ve been reading my recent blogs, you’ll know I’m using a new system to send my weekly emails. If you haven’t gone to my landing page to download your FREE e-book, MY UNKNOWN CHRISTMAS, please click the LINK below to do so. There you can  enter your name and email address into my new automated system. I’m giving you this FREE E-Book to say thank you so much!

MY UNKNOWN CHRISTMAS is a short story I wrote several years ago. One Christmas, I was missing my daughter Wendy, who passed away. I thought about what it would be like from her perspective if she came to visit us in spirit. This short story is the result. Let me know what you think. I love feedback!

http://tlrpublishing.gr8.com/ 

As you know, I’ve released my book, NAMELESS ~A Story of Faith. Sales are going very well. I have it in a few bookstores now, as well! The feedback has been incredible! Many people have said they couldn’t put it down. A few people even cried while reading it! I’m working on NAMELESS ~A Story of Couragethe 2nd book in the NAMELESS Trilogy . It is an amazing story! I will release it in 2018.

If you haven’t purchased your autographed copy of NAMELESS ~A Story of Faith please click on the LINK below to pay with Pay Pal. If you prefer to pay by EMT, please send $26 ($6 is for shipping) to Tammy@TLRPublishing.com and I’ll get your book sent to you immediately.

Mother’s Day is coming soon, and this book will make a FABULOUS gift! Both my mother and my mother-in-law loved it! My Mother read it twice! My Mother-in-law bought 2 more copies to give away and a 3rd to donate to her local library!

This book is a historical fiction with an inspirational message. It’s about a woman who was deathly sick and the many obstacles she had to overcome to reach her goal –healing. Angels of Hope and Strength help her on her journey, while demons of Fear and Weakness attack her.

If you’ve read the book please email me your thoughts. I’m collecting feedback to show to larger stores like Chapters, as proof that people want to buy my book. Then they will carry it on their shelves.

Don’t wait! Order yours today!

https://TLRPublishing.com

 As I mentioned at the beginning, I want to share some information about my other businesses. This is the end of my blog, so if you don't want to read about our businesses you can stop reading now. Of course, I'd love it if you'd continue to read and order products from us, but first of importance is my relationship with you. I won't push anything on anyone. If you know of anyone that would benefit from our products, feel free to share with them. Even if now is not the time for you to buy from us, it is helpful know what we offer so that when the time is right, you will know who to contact.

Hollywood Eye Magic is an amazing serum that does not contain any chemicals. It diminishes the bags and fine lines under your eyes within minutes! You can look you 10 years younger in 5 minutes! For more information please email me at: HollywoodNorthTK@gmail.com

This product is available in two sizes: 30 applications for $40 and 300 applications for $120. Or you can have the COMBO for $150. Plus tax and shipping. We have product in stock, so call now!

Send Out Cards is an amazing way to encourage your loved ones. I always feel better when I do something to encourage someone else. Design your cards online. Personalize them by uploading your photos and your handwriting. Add gifts from books and jewelry to delicious brownies. For more information please email me at: tammyrobinson10@gmail.com

Please go to my website to send a card of your choice and your own design for FREE! When you click the link, just click the Send a Card button. If you need help there is a tutorial video, or call me. I’m happy to help!  https://www.sendoutcards.com/tammyrobinson/

We’ve been selling Organo Gold for several years. Our healthy, gourmet coffee and tea are the BEST I’ve tasted! The coffee is smooth and the chocolate is decadent. All Organo Gold products contain China’s number 1 herb –Ganoderma. I won’t make health claims, but I will say I have many amazing health benefits from consuming the beverages and the herb in capsule form every day. We also have weight management shakes in vanilla and chocolate flavours.  If you want more information please email me at: tammyrobinson10@gmail.com

To order your Organo Gold products and have them shipped directly to you click on: Https://Www.TammyRobinson.MyOrganoGold.com

The last one is our luxury bedding for affordable prices: Tammy’s Clara Clark Bedding Canada. Amazing quality and softness for a price you won’t believe! Orders go in on the 17th of every month and arrive the last week of the month. Click the link and go to Photos/ Winter 2017 Catalog to see pics of our products. Email me with any questions at: TammysClaraClarkBeddingCanada@gmail.com

https://www.facebook.com/TammysClaraClarkBeddingCanada/

Keith and I now accept Mercator Coin for payment for Clara Clark Bedding and TLR Publishing. Haven’t heard of it? It’s digital currency used by the Worldwide Shoppers Club. The club is an exclusive group of Merchants and Members focused on the WIN/WIN of promoting small businesses and saving money for customers. ALL Merchants offer rebates on ALL purchases! These are goods and services you’re buying anyway, so why not get some of your money back AND support a small business at the same time? It's a well-known fact that supporting a small business improves the economy.

For more info email me at: tammyrobinson10@gmail.com or click on this link to watch a TV interview about it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bj8gn8hQ5jc

You can see my site at: Www.TammysClaraClarkBeddingCanada.WorldwideShoppersClub.com where you’ll receive 15% REBATE with your order! Click on the SHOP button at the top of the page to view the many merchants in the club. We’re bringing on more Merchants and Members in the Niagara region and across Canada as we speak. If you are a Merchant and want to see your sales soar, or if you want to get a rebate for buying products and services you already buy, contact me today! This is a WIN/WIN! It is NOT a business opportunity though. It is a club, like a Costco membership.

I look forward to hearing what you think about today’s blog: Stress Management Tips.

Cheers!

~Tammy Robinson~

 

 

 

 


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Stress Triggers

2017-03-27 19:10:40


Welcome! Thank you for joining us today!

I apologize for being two days late in posting this blog. Keith and I are enjoying a winter vacation on the east coast visiting our family. I wrote the blog yesterday but couldn’t post it due to technical issues. Oh joys! 

For the next several weeks we’re going to discuss Stress and the many factors surrounding it. To start with, we’re going to look at possible triggers to stress. Also, let’s look at stress itself.

What is stress? Is stress good or bad? Or both? Think about what it’s like when you’re preparing a big family Christmas get together? So many details to remember and lists of things to do, lists of things to buy, lists of phone calls to make. Is that stress? You think so? But having a family Christmas get together is a FABULOUS thing!

I remember when my daughters got married. When my youngest got married, I made her bridal gown, all the bride’s maids’ dresses and the groom’s men’s bow ties. I also made some chocolate truffles for dessert, and I made my dress to wear. There were the bridal shower, shopping, the Stag n Doe, prizes, and on and on.

With my older daughter’s wedding, there were guest lists, picking out the gown, (a real life “Say Yes To The Dress!” experience), choosing my dress and shoes, hair appointments, spa appointments, photos, and more lists.

If you’ve been through something similar, you may even start to feel stressed from reading this. I know I feel stressed writing it. My chest is tight and painful, and my tummy is nauseated (yes, I learned that word from Big Bang Theory!)

Why would these once-in-a-lifetime, amazing experiences cause such adverse responses? They are wonderful experiences! We are happy and excited! Does this make sense? No!

Stress does NOT make sense! We can try to understand it, but if you’re looking for it to make sense, I think you’ll be disappointed. For starters stress doesn’t care if the situation is positive or negative.

Change is a large contributor to stress. Consider the person who has just gotten married. Are they stressed? Let’s look at it. They’ve just made a lifetime commitment to someone. That alone is HUGE! Add to that, they’ve probably just spent more money on one day than they’ve spent in their entire lifetime –except maybe on university.

Going forward they will be spending every day with their new spouse. The next 2 years will be spent learning the nuances and habits of someone else. How do they make decisions now? Can they make their own decisions? Or do they need to consult their new partner? Are there new boundaries? Like, if it’s $50 or under we can decide on our own,  but over $50 we consult each other.  What about buying a house? Who works outside the home –one person or both? If it’s both, how do they arrange transportation? Do they buy a second car? Do they have children? If so, when, how many? You can see that starting a new relationship includes a lot of decisions and adjustments to make.

We can obviously see the stress created in that situation. And yet, getting married is a wonderful celebration of love. What about the opposite?

I’ve gone through separation and divorce. Each situation is different but there are enough similarities to look at the stress involved. Where to live? Who was looking after the finances? If it wasn’t you, then suddenly you’ll need to learn a whole new skill. Who takes the children? When will visitation be? Who pays child support? Alimony? We haven’t even decided about dividing up all the “stuff” we’ve accumulated together. Ever try separating the photos? Wow! Talk about stress!

So, we’ve established that stress is no respecter of good and bad/ positive and negative. Now, it’s time to look at the fact that stress response is healthy. You may snicker at that fact, but it’s true.

Think about it for a minute. What is the purpose of stress? Doesn’t it signal your conscious mind that something needs your attention? It’s the way our body tells us we need to check the situation and make a change. We need to engage in some self-love.

What would happen if we didn’t have stress response? If stress kept piling up on us and we didn’t do anything about it, our body, mind and emotions would start to break down. We may suffer heart problems, skin irritation, bladder and bowel problems, lack of sleep, irritability, inability to concentrate and remember. That’s just to get started. It would only get worse and worse.

Imagine what it would be like if we couldn’t feel physical pain. We might put our hand on a hot stove and suffer 3rd degree burns. If we don’t feel the pain, we won’t pull our hand away as quickly. Likewise, if we didn’t feel stress, our body, mind and emotions would completely break down.

Another major point to accept is everyone has stress at some point. It’s a part of life. We cannot avoid it. However, sometimes the phrase, “When it rains it pours,” becomes real to us. It may seem that it’s one stressor (source of stress) after another. If it was one stressor at a time, it would be easier to handle than when many stressors pile on top of us all at the same time. When this happens it can seriously impact our quality of life.

 There are many Possible Stressors. Like we’ve established, they can be positive or negative.

 

The first step to prevent or handle stress is to recognize our triggers. I’ve mentioned several, but there are many more. Maybe deadlines stress you. If that’s the case you will be less stressed in a career that does not have deadlines as a regular happening.

 

If you feel stressed, it is imperative to take time to consider what happened that caused you to feel this way. If you can’t come up with it, use Google. Type in “Stress Triggers”. In all situations we must start by identifying the origin. Otherwise, we are walking blind. For some people it takes the symptoms manifesting before they realize they are feeling stressed.

Once we discover our triggers we can develop skills and tools to manage our stress symptoms. Not everyone feels stress the same way. Some feel a tightness in the chest, while others may feel nauseated. Let’s take a look at some of the Symptoms of Stress:

Please post your comments about Stress Triggers below. I love reading them! Each comment is valuable! Next week we’ll look at Stress Management Tips!

If you’ve been reading my recent blogs, you’ll know I’m using a new system to send my weekly emails. If you haven’t gone to my landing page to download your FREE e-book, MY UNKNOWN CHRISTMAS, please click the LINK below below to do so. That will enter your name and email address into my new automated system. I’m giving you this FREE E-Book to say thank you so much!

MY UNKNOWN CHRISTMAS is a short story I wrote several years ago. One Christmas, I was missing my daughter Wendy, who passed away so I thought about what it would be like from her perspective if she came to visit us in spirit. Let me know what you think. I love feedback!

http://tlrpublishing.gr8.com/ 

As you know, I’ve released my book, NAMELESS ~A Story of Faith. Sales are going very well. The feedback has been incredible! I’m working on NAMELESS ~A Story of Couragethe 2nd book in the NAMELESS Trilogy . It is an amazing story! I will release it in 2018.

If you haven’t purchased your autographed copy of NAMELESS ~A Story of Faith please click on the LINK below to pay with Pay Pal. If you prefer to pay by EMT, please send $26 ($6 is for shipping) to Www.Tammy@TLRPublishing.com and I’ll get your book sent to you immediately.

Mother’s Day is coming soon, and this book will make a FABULOUS gift! Both my mother and my mother-in-law loved it! My Mother read it twice! My Mother-in-law bought 2 more copies to give away!

This book is a historical fiction with an inspirational message. It’s about a woman who was deathly sick and the many obstacles she had to overcome to reach her goal –healing. Angels of Hope and Strength help her on her journey, while demons of Fear and Weakness attack her.

If you’ve read the book please email me your thoughts. I’m collecting feedback to show to larger stores like Chapters, as proof that people want to buy my book, so they will carry it on their shelves.

Don’t wait! Order yours today!

http://tlrpublishing.com/

As I mentioned at the beginning, I want to share some information about my other businesses. This is the end of my blog, so if you don't want to read about our businesses you can stop reading now. Of course, I'd love it if you'd continue to read and order products from us, but first and foremost of importance is my relationship with you. I won't push anything on anyone. 

Either way, I want to share something with you to think about...

 

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We’ve been selling Organo Gold for several years. Our healthy, gourmet coffee and tea are the BEST I’ve tasted! The coffee is smooth and the chocolate is decadent. All Organo Gold products contain China’s number 1 herb –Ganoderma. I won’t make health claims, but I will say I experience many amazing health benefits from consuming the beverages and the herb in capsule form every day. If you want more information please email me at: tammyrobinson10@gmail.com

To order your Organo Gold products and have them shipped directly to you click on: http://www.tammyrobinson.myorganogold.com/

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This product is available in two sizes: 30 applications for $40 and 300 applications for $120.Or you can have the COMBO for $150. Plus tax and shipping.

Send Out Cards is an amazing way to encourage your loved ones. I always feel better when I do something to encourage someone else. Design your cards online. Personalize them by uploading your photos and your handwriting. Add gifts from books and jewelry to delicious brownies. For more information please email me at: tammyrobinson10@gmail.com

Please go to my website to send a card of your choice and your own design for FREE! When you click the link, just click the Send a Card button. If you need help there is a tutorial video, or call me. I’m happy to help!  https://www.sendoutcards.com/tammyrobinson/

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 Keith and I now accept Mercator Coin for payment for Clara Clark Bedding and TLR Publishing. Haven’t heard of it? It’s digital currency used by the Worldwide Shoppers Club. The club is an exclusive group of Merchants and Members focused on the WIN/WIN of promoting small businesses and saving money for customers. ALL Merchants offer rebates on ALL purchases! These are goods and services you’re buying anyway, so why not get some of your money back AND support a small business at the same time? It's a well-known fact that supporting a small business improves the economy.

For more info email me at: tammyrobinson10@gmail.com or click on this link to watch a TV interview about it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bj8gn8hQ5jc

You can see my site at: http://www.tammysclaraclarkbeddingcanada.worldwideshoppersclub.com/ where you’ll receive 15% REBATE with your order! Click on the SHOP button at the top of the page to view the many merchants. We’re bringing on more Merchants and Member in the Niagara region as we speak. If you are a Merchant and want to see your sales soar, or if you want to get a rebate for buying products and services you already buy, contact me today! This really is a WIN/WIN! It is NOT a business opportunity though. It is a club, like a Costco membership.

I look forward to hearing what you think about today’s blog: Stress Triggers.

Cheers!

~Tammy Robinson~

 

 

 


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Rights and Responsibilities

2017-03-18 20:11:37


Welcome! I’m so glad you’ve joined us today!

The information I’m going to share with you today revolutionized my life when I learned it. I hope it will enhance your life as well. Please share this blog/ email with your friends and family. At the end of this I have links to your FREE E-Book and to my website to buy your autographed copy of my book NAMELESS ~A Story of Faith.

I will also include links to my other businesses, in case you’re interested. As Keith always says, we have multiple monthly bills, so we need to have multiple streams of income to cover those bills.

As human beings, we have certain rights –regardless of what country you live in. We also have certain moral responsibilities. When we each respect and honor these rights and responsibilities, we live in peace. It’s when we or others disrespect and dishonor these rights and responsibilities our world becomes chaotic.

Instead of having one list of Rights and another list of Responsibilities, I’m going to put them together. My reason for doing this is they balance each other very well. Once you begin reading you will understand what I mean.

I sincerely hope you will post your comments on this blog. Let me know what stands out to you. I’d love to know what resonates with you.

Let me know how this helped you. I appreciate your feedback!

Next week we’re going to discuss Stress Triggers.

If you’ve been reading my recent blogs, you’ll know I’m using a new system to send my weekly emails. If you haven’t gone to my landing page to download your FREE e-book, MY UNKNOWN CHRISTMAS, please click the link below to do so. That will enter your name and email address into my new automated system. I’m giving you this FREE E-Book to say thank you so much!

MY UNKNOWN CHRISTMAS is a short story I wrote several years ago. One Christmas, I was missing my daughter Wendy, who passed away so I thought about what it would be like from her perspective if she came to visit us in spirit. Let me know what you think. I love feedback!

Http://tlrpublishing.gr8.com

As you know, I’ve released my book, NAMELESS ~A Story of Faith. Sales are going very well. The feedback has been incredible! I’m working on NAMELESS ~A Story of Couragethe 2nd book in the NAMELESS Trilogy . It is an amazing story! I will release it in 2018.

If you haven’t purchased your autographed copy of NAMELESS ~A Story of Faith please click on the link below to pay with Pay Pal. If you prefer to pay by EMT, please send $26 ($6 is for shipping) to Tammy@TLRPublishing.com

I’ll get your book sent to you immediately.

http://tlrpublishing.com/

Mother’s Day is coming soon, and this book will make a FABULOUS gift! Both my mother and my mother-in-law loved it! My Mother read it twice! My Mother-in-law bought 2 more copies to give away!

If you haven’t heard, this book is a historical fiction with an inspirational message. It’s about a woman who was deathly sick and the many obstacles she had to overcome to reach her goal –healing. Angels of Hope and Strength help her on her journey, while demons of Fear and Weakness attack her.

If you’ve read the book please email me your thoughts. I’m collecting feedback to show to larger stores like Chapters, as proof that people want to buy my book, so they will carry it on their shelves.

Don’t wait! Order yours today!

As I mentioned at the beginning, I want to share some information on my other businesses. They may have something that will benefit your life. All our businesses focus on promoting better health.

We’ve been selling Organo Gold for several years. Our healthy, gourmet coffee and tea are the BEST I’ve tasted! The coffee is smooth and the chocolate is decadent. All Organo Gold products contain China’s number 1 herb –Ganoderma. I won’t make health claims, but I will say I have many amazing health benefits from consuming the beverages and the herb in capsule form every day. If you want more information please email me at: tammyrobinson10@gmail.com

To order your Organo Gold products and have them shipped directly to you click on: http://www.tammyrobinson.myorganogold.com/

Hollywood Eye Magic is an amazing serum that does not contain any chemicals. It removes the bags and fine lines under your eyes within minutes! You can look you 10 years younger in 5 minutes! For more information please email me at: HollywoodNorthTK@gmail.com

This product is available in two sizes: 30 applications for $40 and 300 applications for $120. Or you can have the COMBO for $150.

Send Out Cards is an amazing way to encourage your loved ones and thereby make yourself feel better too. Design your cards online. Personalize them by uploading your photos and your handwriting. Add gifts from books and jewelry to delicious brownies. For more information please email me at: tammyrobinson10@gmail.com

Please go to my website to send a card of your choice and your own design for FREE! When you click the link, just click on the Send a Card button. If you need help there is a tutorial video, or call me. I’m happy to help!  https://www.sendoutcards.com/tammyrobinson/

The final one, is our luxury bedding for affordable prices: Tammy’s Clara Clark Bedding Canada. Amazing quality and softness for a price you won’t believe! Orders go in on the 17th of every month and arrive the last week of the month. Click the link below and go to Photos/ Winter 2017 Catalog to see pics of our products. Email me with any questions at: TammysClaraClarkBeddingCanada@gmail.com

https://www.facebook.com/TammysClaraClarkBeddingCanada

Keith and I now accept Mercator Coin for payment for Clara Clark BeddingBedding and TLR Publishing. Haven’t heard of it? It’s digital currency used by the Worldwide Shoppers Club. The club is an exclusive group of Merchants and Members focused on the WIN/WIN of promoting small businesses and saving money for customers. ALL Merchants offer rebates on ALL purchases! These are goods and services you’re buying anyway, so why not get some of your money back AND support a small business at the same time? It's a well-known fact that supporting a small business improves the economy.

For more info email me at: tammyrobinson10@gmail.com

or click on this link to watch a TV interview about it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bj8gn8hQ5jc

You can see my site at: http://www.tammysclaraclarkbeddingcanada.worldwideshoppersclub.com/ where you’ll receive 15% REBATE with your order! Click on the SHOP button at the top of the page to view the many merchants. We’re bringing on more Merchants and Member in the Niagara region as we speak. If you are a Merchant and want to see your sales soar, or if you want to get a rebate for buying products and services you already buy, contact me today! This really is a WIN/WIN! It is NOT a business opportunity though. It is a club, like a Costco membership.

I look forward to hearing from you!

Cheers!

~Tammy Robinson~


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Telling Others What We Want

2017-03-11 20:24:36


When we want something there are several different ways we can use to get that message across. We can give hints, expressions, gestures and hidden meanings.

However, many times these strategies don’t work. It’s been said there are always three sides to the truth… what you think the truth is, what they think the truth is, and the real truth. 

Likewise, when you say something to someone, there is what you think you said, what you meant to say, what they think you said, what they think you meant to say, and what you actually said.

As you can tell, communication is very difficult.

It is best to be direct when we communicate. We need say exactly what you mean to say. Even in close relationships, it’s not wise to use hints or hidden messages. The following are examples of clearly saying what we want:

҉ I’d like you to give me a hug.

҉ I want to be your friend, but not your girlfriend.

҉ I want to talk to someone…

҉ I’d like to leave now.

Sometimes, it is not possible to get exactly what we want, or need, because it could affect other people. When we’ve clearly asked for what we want, and the response is given, we need to consider the rights of the other person involved.

It is usually possible to compromise, which respects the rights of both parties. Having an attitude of give and take is often very helpful in communicating.

GIVE    &   TAKE

Join us next week as we discuss our Rights and Responsibilities as human beings.

Below are some examples of miscommunication. They may seem funny, but when it is something important to us, we may not think it’s that funny.

I look forward to reading the comments that you post below.  

Btw… As I mentioned in my last blog, I’m using a new system. I need every one to please click on the link below, if you haven’t already done so, and enter your name and email address. By doing this,  you will be able to download my FREE e-book, MY UNKNOWN CHRISTMAS which is a short story of my experience with my daughter who passed away. This will allow you to continue receiving my emails through my automated system. To you have already done this, thank you! I’d love to hear what you think of MY UNKNOWN CHRISTMAS.

http://tlrpublishing.gr8.com/

As you know, I’ve released my book, NAMELESS ~A Story of Faith. Sales are soaring! The feedback has been incredible! I’m working on NAMELESS ~A Story of Courage, the 2nd book in the NAMELESS Trilogy . What an amazing story it is!

If you haven’t purchased your autographed copy of NAMELESS ~A Story of Faith please click on the BUY NOW! Link to pay with Pay Pal. If you prefer to pay by EMT, please send $26 ($6 is for shipping) to Tammy@TLRPublishing.com and I’ll get your book sent to you immediately.

Mother’s Day is coming soon, and this book will make a FABULOUS gift! Both my mother and my mother-in-law loved it! My Mother read it twice! My Mother-in-law bought 2 more copies to give away!

If you haven’t heard, this book is a historical fiction with an inspirational message. It’s about a woman who was deathly sick and the many obstacles she had to overcome to reach her goal –healing. Angels of Hope and Strength help her on her journey, while demons of Fear and Weakness attack her.

If you’ve read the book please email me your thoughts. I’m collecting feedback to show to larger stores like Chapters, as proof that people want to buy my book, so they will carry it on their shelves.

Don’t wait! Order yours today!

Cheers!

~Tammy Robinson~

Www.TLRPublishing.com

 

 
 

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Saying "NO"

2017-03-04 20:14:33


Do you have a difficult time saying “No”? Do you say “Yes” because you don’t want to hurt their feelings, or because you feel pressured that “they really need you!”?

Depending on your personality type and your communication style you may have a more difficult time that others, or you may not have a problem at all. Let’s take a look at Saying “No.”

Saying "No" when people make demands of us is very difficult. The Passive person will have more difficulty with this. The Aggressive person will usually be able to say “No” without being bothered. The Assertive person tries to find the balance that works for both parties.

Something that has become very important in my life is to look after myself and my needs first. I remember the flight attendant on the airplane saying if the masks fall from the ceiling put yours on first, then help the children and elderly and sick. If we aren’t well, we cannot care for others as effectively.

Many people feel guilty and endure self-critical thoughts if they say “No” to someone. On the other hand, many of us want to avoid feeling guilty so we say “Yes” even if we don’t want to do it or if it doesn’t work for us. Today, we’re going to look at healthier ways to answer the demands people make of us. Let’s look at the illustration below:

Would it be helpful to look at some examples of how we can say “No” that won’t lead us to self-critical thoughts or feeling guilty? Let’s look together:

 

Have you ever decided you were going to put yourself first and not take on too much? How did it go? Was it easy? Or were people shocked? You never say "No!" Maybe they tried to coerce you into changing your mind or tried to make you feel guilty or that they just couldn’t do it without you.

When that happens (because it WILL), just keep repeating yourself. Use the same words. Don’t say it in a different way, just repeat the same words until they get the message and accept your choice. It may help to put the word “No” ahead of the sentence. “No. I’m sorry but I really can’t at the moment,”

If you have to repeat yourself multiple times, you may want to put emphasis on the word, “NO.”

Continue to be aware of self-critical thoughts. Practice challenging them or dismissing them with the following:

 

Was that helpful? Please post your comments below. I hope you will come back next week to read about Telling Others What We Want.

Btw… As I mentioned in my last blog, I’m using a new system. I need every one to please click on the link below, if you haven’t already done so, and enter your name and email address. By doing this,  you will be able to download my FREE e-book, MY UNKNOWN CHRISTMAS which is a short story of my experience with my daughter who passed away. This will allow you to continue receiving my emails through my automated system. To you have already done this, thank you! I’d love to hear what you think of MY UNKNOWN CHRISTMAS.

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As you know, I’ve released my book, NAMELESS ~A Story of Faith. Sales are soaring! The feedback has been incredible! I’m working on NAMELESS ~A Story of Courage, the 2nd book in the NAMELESS Trilogy. What an amazing story it is!

If you haven’t purchased your autographed copy of NAMELESS ~A Story of Faith please click on the SHOP tab to pay with Pay Pal. If you prefer to pay by EMT, please send $26 ($6 is for shipping) to Tammy@TLRPublishing.com and I’ll get your book sent to you immediately.

Mother’s Day is coming soon, and this book will make a FABULOUS gift! Both my mother and my mother-in-law loved it! My Mother read it twice! My Mother-in-law bought 2 more copies to give away!

If you haven’t heard, this book is a historical fiction with an inspirational message. It’s about a woman who was deathly sick and the many obstacles she had to overcome to reach her goal –healing. Angels of Hope and Strength help her on her journey, while demons of Fear and Weakness attack her.

If you’ve read the book please email me your thoughts. I’m collecting feedback to show larger stores like Chapters. as proof that people want to buy my book, so they will carry it on their shelves.

Don’t wait! Order yours today!

Cheers!

~Tammy Robinson~

 


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Responding to Criticism

2017-02-25 13:04:15


Before we get started, I want you to know that this blog is based on the building blocks of last weeks blog, Be Assertive. If you haven’t read that, please read it before continuing, then come back and read this.

To recap, there are three main communication styles: Passive, Assertive and Aggressive. The healthiest one is being Assertive.

When we think about criticism, it’s important not to personalize it. If we can hear the comment and think about it from the speaker’s perspective we will usually find they are trying to help us become the best possible version of ourselves. Most people don’t intend to put us down or hurt us.

Having said that, I know from experience that when we’ve been criticized in an unhealthy way in the past, it can cause us to quickly personalize it. Sometimes we immediately feel the need to defend ourselves. What would it look like if we thought about the critical comment and asked ourselves; Is it true, not true, or partially true? Be honest with yourself.

For example, your supervisor says, “That was okay, but it might have been better if you had…” Let’s look at some possible responses:

 

When we consciously choose to consider the criticism in an assertive way, it is possible for something positive to come from the criticism.

Let’s look at three different assertive responses:

Finally, what step will you take to respond assertively to criticism this week? I look forward to reading your comments.

I hope you will come back next week to read about Saying “No”.

Cheers!

Btw… If you would like to receive my blogs in your email on a weekly basis, please click this link and you will receive my free e-book, MY UNKNOWN CHRISTMAS.

http://tlrpublishing.gr8.com/

 

 

 


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Understanding Communication Styles

2017-02-18 14:59:54


Originally, I wanted to title this blog “Be Assertive!” Then I realized I need to set the foundation before we get into the why and how of being assertive.

There are  three types of communication styles; Passive, Assertive and Aggressive. It can get more complex like being Passive Aggressive or Passive Assertive, etc. For today let’s look at these three styles. We’re going to look at each of them in relation to General Info, Their Beliefs, Their Eyes, Their Posture, Their Hands and Consequences. Let’s get started…

 

General:

Passive: Passive people are generally compliant, talk little, submissive, puts self down, praise other and have vague non-committal communication.   “I don’t mind… that’s fine… yes, alright.”

Assertive: Generally, an assertive person is firm but polite, has a clear message and is respectful of others and themselves. Their actions and expressions match the words they speak.   “That’s a good idea, and how about if we do this too…” or “I can see that but I’d really like…”

Aggressive: Most aggressive people are harsh and sarcastic and think they’re always right. They are superior and seem to know it all. They interrupt and talk over others. They are critical and patronizing. They also put others down and disrespect them.   “This is what we’re doing. If you don’t like it, too bad!”

 

Beliefs:

Passive: The passive person thinks You’re okay, I’m not. They don’t have an opinion other than the other person is more important, so it doesn’t matter what they think.

Assertive: The assertive person believes I’m okay, you’re okay. This person believes and acts as if all people involved are equal. Each person deserves respect. Nobody is more entitled than anyone else.

Aggressive: The aggressive person feels entitled to have things done their way. They think they deserve that because they are right. They believe other people (and their needs) are less important.

 

Eyes:

Passive: Avoiding eye contact and often looking away are traits of a passive person. They look down and are often teary and pleading.

Assertive: The eyes of the assertive person are usually warm, friendly and welcoming.  They are comfortable making eye contact.

Aggressive: An aggressive person’s eyes are narrow and emotionless. They may stare and be expressionless.

 

Posture:

Passive: Passive people tend to make their body appear smaller than it really is. They tend to stoop, have hunched shoulders and lean.

Assertive: A relaxed posture that is warm and welcoming would be from an assertive person.

Aggressive: The aggressive person makes their body seem bigger than usual. They stand upright with their head held high. Their shoulders are usually out and often have their hands on their hips and fists clenched.

 

Hands:

Passive: The hands of a passive person are often fidgety, clammy and held together.

Assertive: An assertive person usually has their hands open and uses friendly and proper gestures.

Aggressive: When someone points, makes fists and has their hands on their hips, it’s probably an aggressive communication style.

 

Consequences:

Passive: Often, the passive person will give in to others easily. They don’t usually get what they want or need. They are often self-critical in their thoughts, and maybe even their words. They are miserable. People often take advantage of the passive person.

Assertive: People with an assertive communication style usually have good relationships with others. They are happy with the outcome of situations and are often willing to compromise to find the WIN/WIN solution.

Aggressive: An aggressive person makes many enemies. They often upset others and themselves. They feel angry and resentful.

 

What communication style are you? Did you find which style you are? Did you find yourself thinking, “Oh, that is definitely __________!” ? I know I did!

Most of my life I was the passive person. Just recently I’ve been becoming more assertive. It’s still difficult with certain people in my life –the aggressive ones! What I’ve found is that when I’m passive I let things build up to the point that I explode over something trivial. I’m much more loving, efficient and productive when I am consistently assertive.

Please share this with the people you know and love. Then come back next week as we look at Responding to Criticism. How do these three communication styles respond? What is the most effective way to respond to criticism?

Now, just a quick update on my book. I’ve had my private release on Sunday, February 12th. I will be at Heritage Christian Book Store in St Catharines from 1 to 3pm on Saturday, March 4th for the Public Launch. If you haven’t purchased your autographed copy of NAMELESS ~A Story of Faith, yet, please come to the Public Launch or go to my website to buy it. Also, the e-book version will be available for $10.00 next week!

Cheers!

~Tammy Robinson~

Www.TLRPublishing.com

 

Passive Vs Assertive Vs Aggressive


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Overcoming Negative Self Talk

2017-02-11 14:58:40


What is negative self talk? It is when we say things to ourselves –or think things– that are negative.

Negative self talk is one of the most important factors in chronic anxiety and depression and bipolar. The key is learning to recognize it. So many times I’ve heard people say nasty things to themselves or about themselves, and they don’t even realize how damaging it is.

A great thing to ask yourself is this: Would I say that to someone else? For example, some people have said, “I’m so fat!” Would you say that to someone else? Or, “You’re so stupid!” Come on! I KNOW you wouldn’t say that to someone else! So, why do we say it to ourselves?

We need to realize we have to look after ourselves first. If you’ve been on an airplane, you know the routine they go through… if the masks fall from the ceiling of the cabin, put yours on FIRST, then help children and the elderly. Why? It’s because if we are not taking care of ourselves FIRST, we cannot help others as effectively.

This was really hard for me to learn. I felt guilty. I had to learn to say no to people because it wasn’t in my best interest. I was wearing myself out trying to please everyone and do everything people asked me to do. Learn to say, “No, that doesn’t work for me.” You don’t need to apologize. You don’t need to explain. And remember, we can’t always please everyone!

So, once you learn to recognize the negative self talk there are some strategies to carry out to help you overcome it. Remember, it’s a habit, so it'll take time. Don’t give up! When you find yourself in negative self talk, let it go and be positive. Keep trying! You can do it!

Here are some strategies:

1-Learn to have compassion for yourself. Don’t over work yourself. Like I just shared, my health and my needs took a back burner to what other people wanted. I was sick, in pain and exhausted. When I learned to show love and compassion to myself I felt better and I was more effective in helping the people I chose to help. Some examples of self compassion would be a relaxing bath, read a good book, take a walk, go for a swim, watch a movie, go to a concert, or play a game. Do something just for the sake of enjoying yourself. You deserve it!

2– Learn to talk yourself out of being afraid. Admit it: you’re afraid. We all have fears. For me, it’s elevators and closed spaces. I used to avoid elevators. Now I face them. I talk myself through it. “I’m okay. I’m almost there. I’m an overcomer!” Afterward, I feel such a sense of accomplishment! Another common fear is the fear of the unknown. That one has plagued me for years. For example; going to a new event or a new place. Who will be there? What will happen? Or the opportunity to go to a new city? To overcome that one I focus on what positive things could come out of it. I realize if I don’t face the challenge I will be missing out on something amazing!

3– Learn to praise yourself more often. Do you ever say out loud, “Good job!” You’ve said it to other people, right? Why not say it to yourself? When I was in my twenties, after my experience in Guatemala, where guerillas ambushed us, shot at us, took us hostage at gun point, robbed and tied us up and left us abandoned in a pit (sounds like a good movie, doesn’t it?) I went to a counselor for the first time. She helped me realize something about myself. I’m very goal oriented. The challenge was when I accomplished my goal I didn’t take time to relish the accomplishment and praise myself. I made another goal and went to work on accomplishing it. When I learned to celebrate my accomplishments I felt more self-confidence and self-worth.

4– Learn to talk to yourself in a soothing, relaxing and comfortable manner. Keep in mind the question I asked earlier: Would you say that to someone else? Would you say it to a child? Is it helpful to lash out at yourself in anger? Or would it be more helpful if you chose to “reset” and try again. Give yourself some grace and mercy. You’re not perfect! Nobody is! So be kind to yourself!

5– Learn to use positive dialogue instead of negative dialogue when you feel you have failed at something or done something wrong. As I said, we all make mistakes. Here’s some examples: Instead of saying, “All I do is make mistakes.” try saying, “Sometimes I make mistakes and sometimes I don't; just like everybody else.” or “Making mistakes means I’m trying and I’m learning.” Another example is; instead of saying, “I can’t find a job.” try saying, “There is something out there for me and I’m in the process of finding it.” Instead of saying, “My pain will never stop.” try saying, “I am in pain a lot, but when I stick to my medication schedule it’s not as bad and I get some relief.” Here’s a good one: instead of saying, “Life sucks!” try saying, “Sometimes life does suck and other times life is amazing.” or “Sometimes life does suck and other times there are pleasurable, fun and beautiful things.”

 6– Learn to replace negative thoughts and comments with positive ones. This is similar to my last point. For example, saying, “I’m not going to finish my work on time.” is not positive. It doesn’t build you up and make you feel good and confident. Try saying, “I believe a schedule can help me get it done and I can always hire a tutor.” or “I’m already 3/4 done; I can finish the last 1/4 on time.” Do you see how the last two sentences lead to more confidence and positivity? Another example would be, “I’m going to get sick.” Try saying, “I’m not feeling well and I’m taking extra care of myself to feel better quickly.” Choose your words and thoughts wisely.

A couple more thoughts on how to overcome negative self talk is G.I.G.O. Have you heard of that? It’s an acronym for Garbage In/ Garbage Out. I learned this in high school and it has stuck with me (that’s a LONG time ago!) Ask yourself, what am I watching, listening to and reading? Who am I associating with? I rarely watch the news anymore because it’s 95% negative. If I have the choice between a band that sings about death and suicide or one that sings about being a overcomer, I’m going to choose the overcomer! I read a lot of self-development books.

This point includes the people we associate with. I’ve had to disassociate from some people I loved. I had one dear friend that was such a toxic relationship I literally moved out of the apartment building to get away from her. It was so bad I was afraid to leave my apartment because I didn’t want to see her in the hall. However, I’ve never had such a powerful connection with anyone in crafting. Together we were amazingly creative. As much as I was glad to get rid of the toxicity, I missed her. It was really hard! I grieved for her. In the end it was the right decision and I’m glad I did  it. Some people come into our lives for a season. I choose to remember the good times and go on with life and friends that build me up instead of tearing me down and controlling me.

Amita Pafel said, “Remember where attention goes, energy flows. So why not cultivate more of what you want instead of what you don’t want.”

Cheers!

~Tammy Robinson~

Remember, if you haven’t ordered your autographed copy of my book Nameless ~A Story of Faith you can do it right now by going to Www.TLRPublishing.com

 


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Ten Stages of Grief

2017-02-05 19:27:40


Before I get into the ten stages of grief, let me share a bit of my experience with grief. Let me preface my story by acknowledging that grief comes in many forms. Death is only one form of grief. We may have lost our job, or lost our house, or gone through divorce. Essentially, grief is when we suffer loss.

When I was 19 yrs old I had a husband, a 2 yr old son and a 6 month old daughter. Life was great! We were poor, but we had love and we had God.

My daughter had always seemed to have a cold. Most of her life she’d been on antibiotics. One Wednesday I took her to the doctor. The night before it sounded to me like the cold had gone into her chest. She had been wheezing. I’ve had asthma since I was a child, so as soon as I heard it, I felt like I couldn’t breath. I immediately empathized with her because I knew what it was like to feel like your chest is heavy and no matter how hard you try you just can’t catch your breath.

The doctor told me she was fine. He listened to her chest and said it was clear. I argued with him, explaining because I have asthma I know what it sounds like and she was definitely wheezing the night before. I admitted he was right, she wasn’t wheezing then. He told me it was in her throat and the sound reverberated which made it sound like it was in her chest.

When I was 19, I had very low self-esteem and almost zero self-confidence but I was adamant she had wheezed the night before. This was one of the rare times I stood up for what I believed. I asked him to send her to a specialist. I pointed out that she’d almost always been on antibiotics since she was born. He said she was developing well and her weight was good. He suggested we wait another month and revisit the idea. I gave in.

Saturday night my husband and I went out for date night. When we came home the babysitter told us Wendy had a hard time breathing. By 5:00 Sunday morning we decided to take her to Emergency. The doctor admitted her to the hospital. Within a few hours our family doctor looked at her. He said to me, “Remember when you brought her in to my office and asked me to send her to a specialist? Well, I’m going to send her to a specialist, so he can see what she’s like when she’s sick.”

The truth was, she was extremely sick and was beyond his ability to help her. She NEEDED a specialist. She went to Orillia hospital by ambulance. Even at that hospital, nobody told me she was critically ill.

A few hours later, she had settled and was resting well. Neither my husband nor I had eaten all day and it was dinner time. We decided to go out and get something to eat and stop by a friend’s house to see if we could spend the night at their place. We told the nurses. Later they told thought we were going to the cafeteria to get some food.

 When we got to ours friends’ house I called the hospital to check in on Wendy. The nurse that answered was frantic. She demanded the phone number that the doctor could reach me at. I didn’t even know it. As my friend relayed her phone number to me I gave it to the nurse.

I got off the phone and started explaining to my husband and friend what happened. I didn’t even finish my sentence before the phone rang. It was the doctor. That was the worst phone call of my life.

He told me that her heart had failed. He was there when it happened and he was able to resuscitate her. He explained that she was on life support. Due to the length of time that her brain had been without oxygen, if she lived she would most likely be a vegetable. She would not be able to do anything except lay in bed. It was imperative that we get there immediately.

Within minutes we were standing outside her room in the hallway. The nurses tried to prepare us by telling us that she had a lot of wires hooked up to her to help her breathe and measure her oxygen levels. Nothing they said could have prepared me for the sight that met my eyes when I saw my baby girl!

I could barely see her for all the wires and tubes and beeping machines and flashing lights. In a state of shock I stood at the end of her bed with my husband’s arm around me. Suddenly, she opened her eyes and looked right at us. She gave us a big smile. My heart was in my throat. My poor baby!

I reached out to her, put my hand on her little chest and started to pray for her. Within seconds she went into cardiac arrest again. The nurses showed my husband and I to a private room while the doctor went to work on resuscitating her.

 While we sat in that room, a nurse came in. She told us Wendy was breathing again. Then we heard a message over the PA system. It called for the crash cart. A nurse came in. She told us to pray. Wendy was in arrest again. After several minutes the nurse returned. She said the doctor had resuscitated her.

It went back and forth like this over the next hour or so. Time was irrelevant.

I began to remember one of my favorite book series, Love Comes Softly, by Janette Oke. In one of the books, Clarke, the father had his legs amputated and was dying from gangrene and infection. It was a pioneer love story. Missie, the grown daughter and Marty, the mother were praying together for God to heal him.

I remember that the mother asked God to heal him if it was His will. Missie got angry at her mother for praying that way. She wanted her father healed, no questions asked. Marty explained to her daughter that Clarke was a man of God and would want God’s will done. If it was his time to go home to heaven that’s what he would want. In the story Clarke recovered and went on to live many years.

Sitting in that hospital room, I felt the gentle voice of God saying to me, “Wendy is my child. It’s time for her to come home. You need to let her go.”

I fought against it in my mind. I prayed harder. I knew she was dying –in fact had died several times already. But she was MY baby girl! She was beautiful! She was perfect! I had faith. I really believed that God could do a miracle and heal her completely. I believed she would not be a vegetable. I believed!

Finally, I relented. I gave her back to God and prayed that His will be done. I shared this experience with my husband who was sitting in a chair on the opposite side of the room praying for a miracle.

His face was hard and he said “No!” as he shook his head.

I began praying for my husband. At this point Wendy was in arrest again. It had been a very long time since she went into arrest. I knew the doctor and nurses were working hard to resuscitate her again. It had been such a long time. I knew in my heart that she was gone. I kept praying for my husband.

I looked over at him. He had his head bowed and he looked so dejected. He looked up at me and gave me a nod. I knew he had made peace with God and given our little girl back to Him.

Within 30 seconds the doctor came into the room with the news that he couldn’t do anything more for her. Wendy had died. God was such a gentlemen that He waited until we had both released our hold on her.

Although I was in a state of shock and couldn’t understand how something so tragic could happen to us, I had the peace of God, knowing that He was with us every step of the way. I knew she was in His loving arms and would never suffer again.

That doesn’t mean that I didn’t ache for her or that I didn’t go through the many stages of grief –I certainly did. I even got mad at God one day. That spring several people I loved passed away. When I heard the news of a friend of the family committing suicide by driving her car head on into oncoming traffic, with her little girl in the car with her, I lost it. I yelled and screamed at God. My husband tried to hold me. I beat on his chest. I was so angry! How many more loved ones was God going to take away from me? How much loss could one person stand?

The thing about the many stages of grief is there is no order to it. I experienced different stages at different times. And when I went through one stage, that didn’t mean it wouldn’t come back. It’s not like a written test where you’re done that section and it’s done. It was more like a cycle that kept going around and around.

It did help to recognize the cycles. It helped me realize that what I was feeling was normal. It really helped knowing that other people experienced similar feelings to me. Nobody feels the exact same thing. No two people’s experiences are the same. Even my husband’s experience was different than mine.

For him, people would ask how I was doing. He was hurt and angry that people expected because he was the man he wasn’t grieving too. Or maybe that he didn’t love her as much as I did. Or maybe that he wasn’t hurting as much as I was. He was hurting and grieving just as much as I was.

In the first few days after Wendy died, I was angry at people saying, “I know it hurts.” I felt like saying, “Do you? How do you know? Did you have a child die?”

 Yet, when my mom’s neighbor walked in, she didn’t say a word. Before she even walked across the room to me I felt the healing begin. SHE KNEW it hurt. Her son (and my school mate) had been accidentally shot and killed by one of our school mates the year before. She knew the agonizing pain of losing a child. She knew that in those times a hug speaks volumes and words aren't needed.

A few weeks later I received a letter in the mail with a small book enclosed. The book entitled Good Grief, is out of print now. The letter was from a woman I’ve never met. She heard about my loss and she had lost her son. She shared my grief. Her letter was so encouraging and strengthening to me.

The book, by Granger E. Westberg, had great information in it. I read it several times. I am a stronger person today, because of that book, and because of those two mom’s, and because of the entire experience of losing my daughter.

So, let’s look at ten of the stages of grief:

  1. Shock –This stage is usually at the beginning, but sometimes not. Some people may not go through this stage at all. Every situation and every person is different. Sometimes it is hard for us to grasp the fact that someone we loved so dearly has been taken from us.
  2. Express Emotion –For some people, at some times, we cry and express our emotions. Sometimes and some people don’t.
  3. Feel Depressed & Lonely –I went through this stage many times. I’m really thankful that I had my 2 yr old son to care for. If it wasn’t for him, I may have curled up into a ball and died of a broken heart and loneliness. I remember being in a room full of people  and feeling overwhelmingly alone. For 6 months and 11 days I had a baby in my arms. Suddenly, my arms were empty. I didn’t feel that warm body snuggled next to my heart. I was lonely. I was even suicidal. I didn't see a reason to go on living. Then, I thought of my son and continued working through the grief.
  4. Physical Symptoms of Distress –Doctors have proven that we can have physical symptoms when we are distressed. What a relief it was to me to know that this is common. I wasn’t dying –I was grieving.
  5. Panic –I dealt with this a lot. My son was later diagnosed with Asthma. For the first few years after Wendy died, when my son had the slightest cough we would rush him to Emerg. They knew us there. They knew that we were grieving parents and we were “gun shy”. It’s hard to think clearly when you’re grieving. Things that we could logically work through in a normal circumstance gave way to waves of panic. Again, this is normal.
  6. Guilt –Wow! This one was huge for me! I used to be a perfectionist. I don’t carry that label anymore. At that time, though, I wondered if I shouldn’t have fed her food so early. Maybe if I’d given her juice and water instead of milk that week the mucus wouldn’t have multiplied. If I had of demanded on that Wednesday, that she be sent to a specialist, would she still be alive? I was only 19… was there something I did wrong because I was a young mom? What if we’d taken her to Emerg Saturday night instead of waiting until Sunday morning? I could go on and on with the number of guilty thoughts I had. I finally had to realize it was her time to go. I consciously focused on the wonderful 6 months and 11 days that we had with her.
  7. Anger and Resentment –I mentioned earlier how I was mad at God at one point. I was also mad at others. I was mad at my family doctor… if he had listened to me she might still be alive. A few weeks after Wendy’s death I got an appeal letter from the hospital asking for funds. I wrote them a scathing letter saying they should check their records before they send out letters. I told them “If I had money I would sue that doctor who didn’t listen to me!” I remember disagreeing with my pharmacy about something –don’t ask me what! I had a bag in my hand and I threw it up to the ceiling. What a scene I caused! It wasn’t the pharmacist’s fault. I was grieving. I was angry.
  8. Resist Returning –This one has a few ways to look at it. For me the week after Wendy’s passing was one of the most difficult. I felt as though everyone had gone back to their normal lives, while I had to find a new “normal” without my daughter. I didn’t want a new normal. I didn’t want people to forget her. Our society today makes it difficult for people to grieve. Years ago people wore black clothes for extended periods of time to signify they were in mourning. I remember when my husband went back to work –I think it was 2 weeks after, but could have been even less. His first day back, he was having a difficult time. His boss said to him, “It’s been 2 weeks. Aren’t you over it yet?” Even now, 28 years later, I’m at a loss for words to that heartless comment.
  9. Hope –Gradually, hope begins to seep through the clouds of grief. The grieving time is different for different people and in different situations. At some point, however, hope does come. We are able to go on with our lives. I remember one day, about a month after Wendy’s death, when my parents stopped in for a quick visit. I was crying and depressed. My mom held me and let me cry. After awhile, my dad spoke up. His words cut me to the heart.

He said, “You didn’t die –Wendy did! You need to get on with your life! Open the curtains! Turn on the lights! Put some music on!” With that he walked out to the car.

Needless to say, a fresh torrent of tears washed down my face. Mom held me and crooned that Dad loves me and hates to see me hurting and he wants the best for me. I sure wasn’t feeling the love!

He began to honk the horn and Mom had to go. After they left, I collapsed on the couch. I was so hurt at the way Dad had spoken to me. How could he? Didn’t he know I was grieving? My baby was DEAD!!

I don’t know how long I sobbed on the couch. At some point, though, the love crept into my brain. I began to wonder if he was right. Maybe it was time for me to get on with my life. Maybe I should open the curtains and let the sunshine in. Maybe I should turn on the lights and put on some music. Music always cheered me up.

Eventually, I got off the couch and did what my Dad suggested. That day was a turning point in my journey with grief. It was a bitter pill to swallow. I’m thankful my Mom tried to sweeten it with hugs. It was hard to make that decision, but slowly hope did come back into my life. I realized life does go on.

10. Affirm Reality –Please don’t get me wrong. When you go through a grieving experience you never go back to being your old self again. You are always a different person. You’ll either be stronger or weaker, depending on how you deal with grief. Or IF you deal with grief. Some people don’t work through it for months or even years.

I remember about 2 weeks after Wendy passed, reading a devotional called, When Tragedy Strikes. It said that when we face tragedy we can allow it to come between us and God and push us away from God, or we can allow it to come behind us and push us closer to God. I chose to do the latter of the two.

It wasn’t easy. It was still hard, even though I felt God’s love and presence in my life. I still ached to hold my baby girl. I still had to work through my grief. I still had to choose to let it make me stronger. I did not become the strong woman I am today over night. It’s like an athlete. They work hard to gain the strength and endurance they have. Grief is hard work! But you can do it!

 Finally, I want to leave you with a quote. It comes from Rabbi Joshua Leibman’s book Peace of Mind. He says, “The melody that the loved one played upon the piano of your life will never be played quite that way again, but we must not close the keyboard, and allow the instrument to gather dust. We must seek out other artists of the spirit, new friends who gradually will help us to find the road to life again, who will walk that road with us.”

Please post your comments below. I look forward to hearing from you!


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Debbie Michael @ 2017-02-14 16:03:35
Tammy, you commented on my blog a couple of weeks ago. I am just now getting back to reading my comments, and the link to your blog.I am so sorry for your loss. I understand. I lost a son. And I understand too that I could not have withstood that experience without the sure knowledge of God being in my pain with me. Thanks for sharing your story. In my Introductions post, I mentioned many links but not to my most read post of all time. It is finished. http://bit.ly/2l95tH4

Let's Talk

2017-01-28 21:40:31


Although I’ve been writing for over 20 years, I’m new to blogging. As you know I’ve been blogging for a couple of months now.

I’m enrolled in a few writing courses. One of the first things that I’ve learned is that it’s important to write about what your readers want to read about. So, for this week’s blog, I’ve decided to share some of my interests and experiences with you. Then I’d like you to share with me which ones you want to hear more about.

Of course, it is easiest to write about the things that I have experienced. Therefore, I’m going to summarize my life, as best I can for you today.

I grew up in a poor and abusive family. I was molested when I was 11 years old. Just in those two short sentences, it opens up many subjects of interest…

#Wealth                    #Poverty              #SurvivingAbuse                   #SignsofAbuse                       #DealingWithMolestation

When I was 19 years old my 6 month old daughter suddenly died. I took her to the doctor on a Wednesday and he said she was fine. By 10:00 Sunday night she was dead. Grief? Yes, I’ve learned a few things about grief!              #Grief                               #SIDS

In 1993 I was on a missions trip to Guatemala. We went there to take clothing, toys and medicine to the people. We were also going to build a church for them. After we landed in Guatemala City, the 13 of us squashed into an extended van where we started our 4 1/2 hour trek down the Pan American Hiway to our destination in Retahleleu.

About midnight, when we were half way there, most of us were lulled asleep in the darkness and the silence of the drive. Into the blackness flashed the muzzles of 3 or 4 guns. The driver of a half ton truck turned on his lights after trailing us in the dark. The group of 4 or 5 robbers pulled along side us, then in front of us, putting on the brakes, causing our van to ram into their truck.

Ever the optimist, I thought it was some teenagers throwing fireworks. My friends were scrambling to the floor and I continued to sit on the front bench seat. The woman beside me shouted up from the floor, “Get down! You’re gonna get shot!”

Okay, this blog could get very long if I don’t sum up this story. We were robbed, tied up and left abandoned in a pit. During the hostage one of the bandits held the gun an inch in front of my forehead.

I know what it is to face fear, death, anxiety and panic. I know trauma. I was penniless in a foreign country. Even with the other 12 people in my group I felt completely alone. After this, I felt like I had a 2nd chance at life.

#Ambushed      #Hostage         #Robbed            #Abandoned         #Alone

During my recovery I suffered many panic attacks and learned to manage life with PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).  #PanicAttacks                        #PTSD

Later in life, after 15 years of marriage, I went through a difficult divorce. A few times I’ve had to start my life all over again and build it from the ground up. I’ve had a few of my own businesses. I’m still learning what works and what doesn’t work in different industries.

#Divorce       #ReStart        #Business101

For 7 years I was in an abusive relationship. Even after being arrested and going to jail for assaulting me, I stayed with him for an additional 6 years. Now, I understand some of the reasons people continue to go back to their abusers. I also have some idea about reaching out for help and creating an emergency escape plan –which is how I finally escaped in 2007.

#Abuse        #EmergencyEscapePlan           #WhyPeopleStayinAbusiveRelationships

Since I was a teenager I dealt with undiagnosed mental health issues. I battled with suicide attempts for over 20 years until 2009 when I came up with a solid plan to end it all. As I was closing my eyes in death I realized that I had finally done it. I was dying. Thankfully, God’s love reached out to me in those last seconds before I closed my eyes and gave me the strength to cry out for help.

After spending 3 days unconscious in the hospital, and 6 more in the psych ward, I began my recovery. Now I have a 3rd chance at life. Two near-death experiences are enough for me!

So, I can share about suicide and mental health. I’m thankful that today there are more and more people speaking out about mental health and suicide. Howie Mandel has stepped up to the plate as well as many others.

#MentalHealth          #LetsTalk        #Suicide          

As I mentioned earlier, I have a few businessesHowie with my hubby, Keith. Two of them are MLMs. I enjoy discussing and training on strategies to build your business. What works and doesn’t work.

#Entrepreneur        #Biz101 

At this time in my life, I’m experiencing the empty nest. My kids have their own lives. It’s hard to find the balance between showing respect for their space and missing them like crazy! If my house was big enough and if they were willing, I’d live like the Waltons –all under one roof!

#EmptyNest

Above all and included in these topics is the truth the God loves every one of us. His love is unconditional. I’m not religious. To me, religion is a list of do’s and don’ts. It’s doing things because you have to. It paints a picture of an angry god sitting on a throne judging people.

I am all about relationships… with God, my family and my friends. God loves me no matter what I do or don’t do. My faith in Him is what has given me my third chance at life. Relationship paints a completely different picture.

#GodLoves           #Relationship               #Faith

For each topic I’ve placed a “#” sign in front of it. Please comment below on the topics you would like to hear more about. Or email me at Tammy@TLRPublishing.com

Cheers~

 

 

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Tips for Healthy Sleep Hygiene from a Rheumatologist

2017-01-21 14:03:26


Several years ago a rheumatologist diagnosed with Fibromyalgia, which is closely related to Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. Many nights I sleep for a couple of hours then I’m woken from pain. I toss and turn in frustration for hours. As the sun spreads its fingers of dawn across the horizon I tend to fall asleep for a few more hours.

The Rheumatologist that diagnosed me gave me some key points to healthy sleep hygiene. These tips have really helped me to have a better sleep… when I remember to do them (brain fog and memory problems come hand in hand with both of those diagnoses.)

1– Warm bath 1/2 hour to 1 hour before going to bed. It’s important not to have the water too hot. It’s also important not to go to bed immediately after the bath. The bath water elevates our body temperature which works against having a good sleep.

2– Read a boring book in a chair –not in bed. There are two important fact here. One, is not to read something that is going to excite you. That is often my mistake. An interesting book is going to make you want to stay awake and read longer. Also, it’s important to sit in a chair –not a comfy one, either! The idea here, is to subconsciously get your body to want to go to bed to sleep.

3– No TV in your bedroom. This is like reading a good book. When you get engulfed in a good TV show or movie, it will make you want to stay awake, and not sleep.  Even if you put on the “sleep” mode, having the noise of the TV in the background will actually wake you and keep you in a light sleep and not promote a deep and restful sleep.

4– Do not use electronic devices for 1/2 hour to 1 hour before going to sleep. This is also related to the last point. The light that emits from TVs and electronic devices will keep us awake and alert. This is the exact opposite of what we’re looking to do.

5– Set a time to go to bed regularly. Many wait until they feel “sleepy” before going to bed. My doctor said it is better to set a time and make the choice to go to bed at that time. Developing a schedule subconsciously trains your body to expect to go to sleep at a certain time.

Here is an example of a healthy bedtime routine:

10:00 –Warm bath

10:30 –Read boring book in chair

11:00 –Get into bed and turn out the light

Finally, I have discovered a very helpful tool that I use almost every night. I have downloaded a FREE Meditation App. You can choose to listen to a guided meditation where a voice guides you into deep relaxation. Some people prefer not to have a voice guide them. There are many options, such as nature sounds, piano music, guitar music and many more.

The important thing to remember, if you use an app on an electronic device when going to sleep is to turn it over so the light from the face of the device is not visible. Even in the middle of the night, if you get some type of notification that lights up the screen, that will disturb your sleep.

I hope these tips on healthy sleep hygiene help you to have a wonderful and restful sleep. Do you have suggestions or tips to add? Please post your comments below. I’m eager to hear from you!

 


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3 Key Tools for Coping With Anxiety

2017-01-14 12:51:13


Have you ever had an anxiety attack?

Ever feel like your chest is being crushed? Like you can't breathe? The symptoms are different for everyone. And, I've recently discovered that after managing anxiety attacks for years, they can suddenly present in a completely different way, catching you off guard.

Awareness is key. The good news is, once you realize you're having an anxiety attack, you CAN manage it!

Today, I am going to share with you my top 3 tools that have helped me cope with anxiety attacks for the last 7+ years. It works best when I do these 3 things together.

First, shock yourself. Splash cold water on your face. Put your hands and wrists under cold running water. The extreme change in temperature to these sensitive parts of your body will shock your system and most often will be the catalyst to stop the attack.

Once I was a passenger in a car during a rain storm. I was trying to deal with the attack and had no means to running or cold water. So, I rolled down the window and put my hand out into the cold air and rain. It didn't stop the attack but it did help a lot,.

Second is redirection. Do something you enjoy. It could be watching TV or a movie; reading a book; or listening to music. The key here is to do something to get your mind off of the panic attack and onto something that will interest you. Obviously, if you're not a reader, picking up a book to read is not going to be the most effective choice. Most people enjoy at least one of the items I listed above. I'm fortunate  to enjoy all of them! 

The reason I take pleasure in TV, movies, books and music is because they are a means to transport me from my current situation to a virtual reality. During some of the most difficult times in my life I would lose myself in a good book. It allowed me to escape from my painful reality.

Finally, use scent. For me, I use essential oils. I carry a roll-on with me so when ever I have an attack I can roll it on my temples and my wrists. I did this when I was in the car, in the situation that I mentioned above. Then I continued to inhale the smell of the oils by bringing my wrist up to my nose and breathing in deeply. I don't understand why scent is such a strong sense, but it really is. 

I am allergic to most perfumes, so that is one reason I carry my Doterra Essential Oil roll on with me. If you can wear perfume or cologne then you can carry that with you. Although, I do suggest essential oils, if you can, because of the health benefits. The oils get absorbed into your skin within seconds and can help calm you quite quickly.

When I do all 3 of these things together, I can work my way through most anxiety attacks. Unfortunately, there is no magic answer, and as far as I know, there is no "cure" for anxiety attacks. Hopefully, by sharing my top 3 tools for dealing with anxiety, it will help you or someone you love in working through your own panic attacks.

It would mean a lot to me if you would comment below. Feel free to share your tools and techniques for managing anxiety attacks.

Until next Saturday... Cheers!


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Sheri Hawkins @ 2017-01-17 11:26:44
Great tools, Tammy! I totally agree about the cold water. That has always been the thing to work for me. I also use DoTerra Serenity. Love the blogs, keep them coming! :)

Power of Perspective

2017-01-07 23:22:09


Welcome back! I'm so glad you've returned.

Do you realize how much power is in our perspective? Is it possible to go from hating something to loving it?

It is! I know because that has happened to me! What was it that I hated? Football. Now, before you roll your eyes and skip ahead, be patient... there is a really strong lesson to be learned here.

In order to explain I will bear my heart to you. In my first marriage my husband loved sports. There's nothing wrong with that (in fact, now I love sports too!) The problem was (and I don't mean to put him down) he spent so much time watching sports -and mostly football- that I felt it was more important to him than I was.

I felt that he'd rather spend time watching football than spending it with me. I was jealous. I literally felt like it was "the other woman" in his life. I despised it. I also didn't understand the rules of the game, so that didn't help.

To back up a bit, in the beginning of our marriage I tried to find common ground. I learned about baseball. I went to games, we played in a co-ed league together, I played in a women's league and I even kept score for the team that he played on. I really tried to share in his love of sports.

But I just couldn't do it with football. It's not what caused our marriage to break up, but it did cause a lot of hurt in my life and it did drive a wedge between us. So, you see, I really hated it!

There was a 2 year period where I was single. During that time, God healed me from many hurts, including the rejection I felt from my first husband. For the first time in my life I began to explore things and see what I really liked and didn't like.

You know the movie "The Runaway Bride"? I was like her. I took my coffee whatever way was convenient for the person I was with. I didn't know if I enjoyed being outdoors or not. I didn't know if I liked sports or not. So, I really got to know myself.

I discovered that I really enjoyed baseball and hockey. Even while living alone I would watch the games on TV. I even joined a baseball league again. I still wasn't ready to give football a chance -I didn't understand the game anyway. And to be honest, there was still some bitterness and resentment there.

So, along comes the man of my dreams... my sould mate... Keith! And guess what? He loves sports! The difference is he leaves no doubt in my mind that I am far more important to him than any sports game. 

After awhile, I explained why I hated football. He had been confused about my dislike for it when I so passionately enjoyed baseball and hockey. Once I explained he understood. Very gently he asked if I would consider learning the rules of the game. Would I be open to exploring the idea that it could become something that we could enjoy together?

What a difference! When I had the confidence in his love and affection, instead of competing for attention, I found myself wanting to learn more. It's a much more complex game in my mind,  but that gives it an added dimension of competition -and I'm a very competative person!

Keith & I were blessed to go to a Buffalo Bills game a few years ago. It was the best sporting event I've ever been to! I can't wait to go again! Some day, I hope to have season tickets to the Bills!

What a change! Isn't that amazing? And the only thing that really changed was MY perspective! In my first marriage football was something I felt threatened by and in my second marriage it is something I embrace as enjoyable time with my hubby. Although, I confess I also watch it when he's at work!

How does this apply to you? Is there something in your life that has been bothering you? Is there something that is holding you back? Maybe it's a person that just drives you crazy.

May I suggest you try looking at the situation with a different perspective? I hope this story that I've shared will help you gain a more positive perspective in some area of your life.

Please share your comment below. Or if you have a similar example of how changing your perspective helped you, please share with us.

Until next week... cheers!


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How Do You Eat An Elephant?

2016-12-31 21:51:11


The answer is simple: one bite at a time!

I got the idea from a book by the late Brian Klemmer, called "Eating the Elephant One Bite at a Time". It's a fabulous book! In fact, every book of his that I've read has been fabulous.

Why am I writing about eating elephants on New Year's Eve, 2016? Because I realize that a lot of people get discouraged when they consider the new year. Is that you? Maybe you don't see it as a time to re-set and have a fresh start. Do you see the changes you want to make in 2017 as a huge elephant and have no idea how to reach your goals?

Most of us have set New Year's Resolutions and not completed them. In fact, I heard that most people have given up on them by the 17th of January. I know I'm guilty. Are you?

When I was considering what to write in this blog, I asked myself, "How can I help change the world?" The answer: the same way I can eat an elephant. One bite at a time; or, one step at a time.

So, this year, instead of making grandiose resolutions that we probably won't keep, what if we make one small change? Once we succeed at that, we can make another small change, later in the year. And then another, and another.

During my life, I've had some huge obstacles to overcome and I've learned that what works for me is breaking it down into small manageable parts. I think this is a good way to look at the new year as well.

Back to changing the world... if this blog inspires you to make one small change, that may inspire someone else to make a small change, and so on. It's the "ripple effect" like when you throw a stone into the water and the ripples spread out across the surface.

I'm just one person. At this point I can't cause a huge change on a lot of people, but I can make a small impact on a few people, who can impact others.

Will you be one of those people? I'd love it if you would post a comment about your one small change that you're going to make this year in the comment section below.

I wish you all a very happy New Year. May 2017 be filled with love, health and happiness for each one of you!

Cheers!


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Love Knows No Season

2016-12-24 20:50:22


You may recognize that line. It's from a Christmas song.

Is it true in your life? It is in mine. Christmas has different meanings to different people. I wouldn't want to let this season go by without sharing my thoughts on Christmas.

I've alluded to it in previous blogs, but this is an opportunity for me to share true love with you. To me,  Christmas is a celebration of Love. I believe God is Love. I celebrate the birth of Jesus, being fully God and fully man... how is that possible? I have no idea!

But I do believe that Jesus saw us (mankind) wallowing in our sin and chose to leave His seat in Heaven to be born as a baby and grow up among us. He felt the pain and heartache that we've all felt. He probably has asked the same questions we've asked, "Why do bad things happen to good people?" "Why did that person have to die?" "Why did they hurt me?"

His whole purpose in this adventure of His was to take the punishment for our sin, so we would have the choice to be forgiven and live a life abundantly and free. It's the greatest love ever known!

So, back to the title.... "Love knows no season..." As 2016 comes to an end and we look forward to the New Year, I hope this blog will encourage you to do two things:

1- To get to know the babe in the manger of the Christmas story

2- To spread His love to everyone you come in contact with this coming year!

Merry Christmas to all!

Please post your comments about your Christmas celebrations this year!

 

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Commercialized Christmas

2016-12-17 17:23:09


Welcome back! Thanks for joining us as we discuss the commercialization of Christmas.

What do you think about it?

Christmas is my favorite time of the year. To me, it's about giving. I love to give all year round, but Christmas seems to be a time when everyone is giving, merry and bright. It's also a time when most of us are focused on peace on earth.

If you ask me the question, "Is Christmas commercialized?" my answer would be, "That's a question that only you can answer."

It's really a heart issue. Why do you give gifts? Do you want to give the most gifts? Do you want to give the most expensive gift? Do you need that latest version of the newest device? If your answers to those questions are yes , then it sounds like you've commercialized Christmas.

But if you answered no, then maybe Christmas is still sacred to you. I love spending the time getting to know my family and finding out what is important to each of them.

When Christmas time rolls around I start to research on those things that they've been chatting about all year long. I find that special something that will show them that I listen when they're talking about things. I pay attention to what's important to them. And, of course, the reason I do that is because they are important to me.

That's part of the joy of Christmas. Then there is the anticipation of giving that perfect gift and the joy on their faces when they open it. I love having my family all together, chaos and all! The more the merrier!

So, what's your favorite part of Christmas? Is there some tradition that your family keeps? My Grandma would always give us a stocking with an orange in the toe and a can of pop in the heel. I've switched from the healthy orange to a chocolate orange, but I've maintained that tradition. My other Grandma always gave us a box of thin mints. That's something that my family can always count on me for as well.

Please post your comments below. I look forward to reading them.

Cheers!


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#THEYEAROFBEINGEPIC

2016-12-10 15:25:47


 

Thank you for joining us for week number 2 of my Blog, as I promised.

How was your week? Did you do something new last week after reading my blog? I hope you did! Please post your comments below last weeks blog. I'm eager to read them!

Today, I realize Christmas is only 2 1/2 weeks away. And right after that we bring in the New Year. I'm big on setting goals -healthy, realistic, timely goals that I can reach. Goals that I write down and revisit. Like Eric Worre says, "Plan, Do, Review". I wouldn't be nearly as successful as I am today if I hadn't followed that path.

So, when it comes to the end of the year, I like to "review" my year and compare myself to where I was last year at this time. What did I do that made me a better person, or more su cessful in my business, or closer to my family? What did I do that caused problems, or stress, that I don't want to repeat?

Then I make a "Plan" for next year. I think it's wise to break it into three parts:

*Yearly                               *Quarterly                                         *Monthly

After I write down my goals/ "Plan" in these three sections I "Do" my plan. See how it works. Then we're back to review... don't wait until next December to review! lol Review on a Monthly, Quarterly and Yearly basis. Tweak your plan and improve a little more each time.

One of the most important factors is to write your goals down on paper! It makes them real. It makes you feel more accountable, and organized and purposed.

Having said that, when I think of my yearly goal, I usually attach one word to the coming year. For example, the word for 2016 was PEACE. Looking back, I'm so amazed that with everything that we went through, we were filled with an amazing sense of peace. We've had a year from hell in our finances, yet we had peace and happiness. Keith and I grew closer to each other as husband and wife. My health improved. I accomplished my life long dream of publishing my book! Sometiimes life was crazy-busy and stressful, but through it all, I was at peace. It's been an amazing year!

The word for 2017 is "Epic". Hense the title of #THEYEAROFBEINGEPIC. Not only is 2017 going to be an epic year, but I AM going to be EPIC this year!

I hope you'll take some action after reading this blog and write out your yearly, quarterly and monthly goals. That's your plan. Then do them; review them; tweak them and make a new plan. Follow the cycle: Plan/Do/Review.... it works!

Please take a moment and write your word for 2017 in the comment section below. If you'd like to share a goal, that would be wonderful too!

Right now I'm working on building my weekly email list. I'll be sending emails out, starting on December 19th with updates about the progress of my debut book. If you haven't heard about it yet, please click on "My Book" tab and read about it. It's called, Nameless ~A Story of Faith. If you haven't signed up to receive my weekly emails, please click on "Contact Me" and send me your info so you can be included on December 19th!

If you haven't ordered your copy of Nameless ~A Story of Faith, please click on "Shop" and pre-purchase yours today, and maybe one as a gift for a friend! You will be helping me reach my goal of 200 pre-sales by January 1st, which will pay for the printing of the book. My new release date is January 16th. Thank you so much! I can't do it without the support of my friends, family and followers!

Thank you for reading my blog today. I hope you'll share it with your friends and come back next Saturday to read my thoughts on Christmas! Be well, my friends,

Cheers!

 

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Sippin' Saturday

2016-12-03 10:54:08


Good morning!

Welcome to my blog. Thanks for joining me here. It's Saturday morning and I'm sitting in the living room, sipping a Bavarian Chocolate Coffee. Yummy!

So many things to do today... mostly I need to finish decorating for Christmas. My 47th birthday is tomorrow and I almost always decorate for Christmas on the weekend of my birthday.

I'll be transparent; I have mixed feelings about this weekend. Originally, I was super-excited about it because today was the day I had planned to launch my first book, Nameless ~A Story of Faith.

As I'm sure you've read, the launch is postponed until the New Year. I need to reach my goal of 200 pre-sales to pay for the printing of the book. So, now I'm consciously choosing not to focus on what "could have been" or "should have been" happening, and I'm focusing on what IS happening. 

And that is, Keith & I are working diligently to market my book and reach that goal of 200 pre-sales. It is also me being stretched and learning to become comfortable outside my comfort zone. I heard a wise man say that, and I've made up my mind that I will be comfortable outside my comfort zone. What that does is widens our comfort zone. It allows us to take more risks, embrace more opportunities and meet more people.

So, enough about me. What about you? What are you choosing to focus on? Are you wishing for something that didn't happen? Or are you concentrating on what IS happening right now? Are you willing to step outside our comfort zone and try something new?

I want to challenge you to consciously choose one new thing that you will do or try this coming week. Please write in the comment below what it is you are going to do. Then come back and let us know how it worked out. I'd love to hear from you!

I want my blog to be a virtual "Family Room", where we can sit and chat together. We can listen to each other and inspire each other.

So, one thing I've learned is that a good leader will not ask someone to do something that they are not willing to do themselves. Therefore, I need to try something new this week. What I've chosen to do is to make a promise to you. This is definitely outside my comfort zone because I take promises very seriously. I promise that every Saturday, no matter where I am in the world (I plan to travel a lot in my future!) and no matter how I feel (as many of you know I have Fibromyalgia and Mental Health Issues and Diabetes), I will post a blog.

I feel that blogging is an integral part of creating a following for my writing and it's a fabulous way to inspire people. I love encouraging and inspiring people!

If you haven't already done so, please go to my website, Www.TLRPublishing.com and pre-order your copy of Nameless ~A Story of Faith today! If you're local you can choose the "Pick Up" option so you don't even have to pay shipping.

I sincerely appreciate your support in helping me reach my goal and see my dream come true!

Also, please go to the Contact Me page and join my Email List and my Blog List. As promised, I will blog every Saturday and my email will be once a month.

I wish you all a FABULOUS week ahead! And remember to put your comments below!

Cheers!


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My First Blog!

2016-11-13 11:21:22


Welcome to my Blog page!

I love taking on new challenges. As the quote goes, "If you are not willing to learn, no one can help you. If you are determined to learn, no one can stop you." (Anonymous)

So, this is the beginning of a new chapter in my life, called "My Blog". I'm currently taking an on-line course to learn the basics of blogging.

My goal is to Blog once a week... probably Monday. I love Monday's because.... well, actually, that might be the topic of my next Blog! lol

One thing I need to look into is jargon. Is it okay to put "lol" and other acronyms in a Blog? Does the word "Blog" get capitalized in the middle of a sentence?

As you can tell, I definitely need to learn how to do this. One thing my parents taught me is when you do something, do it to my very best ability.

I look forward to communicating with you through this Blog (or is it "blog"?) site.

Please leave a comment below. I will personally read and pray over every comment.

Although, I rarely drink alcohol, I love the phrase "Cheers" as it means "Let's celebrate"... at least that's what it means to me! lol. So...

 

Cheers!


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Tammy Robinson @ 2016-11-13 11:38:41
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Hi there!


Thank you so much for joining me in my “on-line home”. This is a place where we will be inspired and encouraged together.


I’m just learning how to blog, so please be patient with me. I’m hoping the learning curve is not too drastic! Lol.


Thankfully, our Heavenly Father has blessed me with an optimistic outlook on life. If you know some of the tragedies and traumatic events I’ve been through, you will understand what I mean when I say that no matter how dark my situation seems, I have peace because I know that my Saviour is always with me. He will NEVER leave me! 


Some days I’ve been laying face down on the floor, my body heaving with sobs as my heartbreak pours out of me, and I feel as if I cannot possibly go on. It’s in those times –like the poem, “Footprints” says, -that Jesus carries me. It’s in those times when I picture myself sitting on His lap, like a little girl sitting on her Daddy’s lap, with His strong arms around me, comforting me and soothing me. He will give me strength to go on.


And He will give you the strength to go on as well. I trust that when you visit me here you will be encouraged. I look forward to your comments on my Blog as well as your feedback on my book, Nameless ~A Story of Faith.


I look forward to our journey together.


Big hugs!!


~Tammy~


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I’m really grateful that you have visited my virtual “home” today. I hope you will leave a comment so I can hear what you have to say. Your input is very important to me. I pray over each comment that comes in, and trust our Heavenly Father to be a constant source of comfort and encouragement to you.

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Please consider signing up to receive updates from my blog directly to your email address. Doing it this way keeps you in the loop so you don’t miss out on anything. We can all use a dose of optimism from time to time, which is what I love to share.

I look forward to hearing from you today!

~Tammy~



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